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WHAT DO STRANGERS MOSTLY ASSUME ABOUT YOU?




First of all, we are all guilty of this, let’s not even deny it. You meet someone and you immediately assume something about them. “Hmmm, she just looks like she would have a sugar daddy”. “No, he’s definitely a yahoo boy”. We just assume things about people we hardly even know. 
I have had people tell me that when they first met me, they thought I was stuck up. Some say they thought I was mean and that I had this mean look. I know I’m working on smiling a lot but come on, MEAN?? Again some have said it was hard to approach me because they felt I would be cold and mean and they didn’t want to be embarrassed. 
I have to tell you, it didn’t feel good hearing all that because they are not in any way a representation of who I really am. I’m a blunt person, I know (sometimes a tad too blunt for my own good), but I am not mean at all. But, what did I do about all those negative assumptions people had about me? I decided to work on myself; heck I’m still working on myself. First impressions matter right, and a second opportunity to right the first impression may not come. I didn’t want other people’s first impressions of me to be that I looked mean and unapproachable especially because it is not who I really am. And so I am always conscious when I’m out in public and I mentally tell myself to smile more so I won’t be perceived as being mean. 
And then it also got me thinking...what if my perceived mean demeanor has been blocking great opportunities in businesses and friendships from me. Oh no!!! What if, what if it has pushed potential suitors (footballers even) away from approaching me? What if I could have been married to Oliver Giroud by now, living in our beautiful chateau with our three kids, two boys and a girl?
But you know what, this whole thing is even confusing because while some people say I look stern and unapproachable, I cannot count how many times someone has singled me out in a crowd just to ask me for directions or for a pen (in a bank) and other scenarios. So I didn’t look mean to those people or what? See ehn, I have decided to do me abeg, I cannot come and go and kee myself. 
So yeah, what do people immediately assume about you when they meet you for the first time, even though it may not necessarily be true? 
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