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5 WAYS TO GET OVER A HEARTBREAK

Most of us have gone through one heartbreak or the other, and by heartbreak, I mean the romantic type hunay. I remember my first real heartbreak and looking back now, there are some things I would have done differently like not dwell too much on it because it would only prolong your healing process. Ok so, how do you get over a heartbreak. Valentine’s Day is here so this post would come in handy for those of you (tongue out) that would suffer a heartbreak on that blessed day; oh I pray for you sister and brother. Ok, let’s be serious now. How do you get over a romantic heartbreak; here are 5 ways to do that.




1. ACCEPTANCE 
See, it’s a heartbreak right? Yes, that’s what it is. You should start singing,  “We are never ever, ever, ever getting back together” (I forget how many “evers” but be free to add as many as you feel like. Yeah, you broke up and are never ever ever getting back together with your  ex, right? Oh well, maybe you will someday, I mean, never say never abi? What am I saying, for now you’re not because you guys BROKE UP! It is what it is, so accept it. That’s the first step to your healing.


2. WORK ON YOURSELF 
Now this is the time for sober reflection. Why did the relationship not work out? Was it your fault? Was it his fault? Were there some things you did that contributed ultimately to the breakup? No one is perfect and a good person acknowledges their wrong and learns from it. So if in your heart of hearts you know, you messed up, now is the time to be better for you and for your next boo. Remember that you can’t give what you don’t have. If you take the time to work on yourself and be a better human, chances are your next relationship would be better for you, hopefully. So it’s really important that you take care and work on yourself, physically, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and any other “-lly”.


3. DELETE PHOTOS AND VIDEOS THAT BRING PAINFUL MEMORIES 
Is this too drastic? I think not! See the memories are in your head or heart or wherever it is memories are stored in the body. If you keep those photos and videos of your ex on your phone, you’re just making the wound wider and deeper. You’re going to keep dwelling on what was and might start to wallow in the thought that you could still try and work things out, like see “how happy we looked, we must have meant something to each other”. NO! It’s over. Delete those photos and videos NOW!!!

4. BE BUSY
If you are busy whether with work, a hobby, volunteering...you would have way less time to dwell on the thoughts of you relationship that is now over. This is why being too busy is one cause of relationships having problems because you wouldn’t have enough time to work on your relationship. Now apply this strategy to your breakup. Be deliberately busy so that you do not think too much of the breakup. The less you think about the break up, the faster your healing becomes. So to get over that breakup, BE BUSY!

5. REMEMBER THE BILLIONS OF FISHES OUT THERE?
See ehn, when you have that mentality that there are lots of fishes in the sea and that the fact that the bone of one fish that you really loved, choked you or “hook you for throat”  like my people say, doesn’t mean you won’t eat fish again for the rest of your life na, come on. Thank God you didn’t die and now you’re going to get out there and get yourself another lovely, tasty fish, haha. 
Do not allow the departure of one person from your romantic space mean the end of your love life. Nah, no one is worth that power. So oya, grab your fishing net, hook and what ever will assist in catching another fish (or fishes *wink*).
At the end of the day, it’s just a heartbreak and not a death sentence. Live your life and be happy because, this too shall pass. 





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